I think that if we realized each other was carrying around these hurts, all of us, that we might connect with each other differently. We might be a little slower to hurt or ignore. We might be a little quicker to look a person in the eye and give a hug. It ties back to the Plato quote of earlier.
I know friends who have lost loved ones through divorce and betrayal. I spoke to a minister once about betrayal and told him that perhaps, just perhaps, that might be the worst of offenses between people.