Sunday, September 27, 2009

Sociopath Next Door

I just finished reading the book The Sociopath Next Door where it was stated that approximately 4 in 100 people are likely to be sociopaths.  The definition of a sociopath is one that has little regard for the well being of others.   The book makes that point that they do not have a conscience.   The book outlines 13 rules for dealing with sociopaths in everyday life.  Some of those rules are:

  1. accept that some people have no conscience.
  2. when considering a new relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Three regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has.  Make the Rule of Three your personal policy.  One lie, one broken promise, or a single neglected responsibility may be an misunderstanding instead.   Two may involve a serious mistake.  But three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior.  Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can.
  3. suspect flattery.
  4. do not join the game.
  5. question your tendency to pity too easily.  
  6. never agree, out of pity or for any other reason, to help a sociopath conceal his or her true character.

If the book's claim that 1 in 25 people are like this, then it seems wise to understand these issues, behaviors and signs.   The book is interesting.


  1. Sociopathy is one of the few "disorders" that have zero compassion or tolerance in American society. Selling the idea of a defense against sociopathy is the same as a defense against the autistic or schizophrenic. Sociopaths must simply be dealt with in a different way than others.

  2. Hi Mark,

    Just finished The Noticer and enjoy looking over your book list to see what I might like to read next!